Wedding planning does not just concern the bride and groom. It is also considered as a big moment or the mums. Here are some issues and mother duties that you will expect during the process:
Discuss About the Money
During the initial phases of the engagement, the couple will have the idea that there are no limits when it comes to preparation. You do not really have to dampen the enthusiasm they feel, but you have to be specific and clear about the limits. Discuss this with your partner, and then with the groom and bride to be, talking about their wedding finances. Make sure that you set limits as to how much you can contribute to the budget. Remember, you are a MUM, not an ATM.
Play Your Role
Perhaps you have a lot of wedding ideas in mind. However, you should never assume right away that you will be in control when it comes to wedding preparation. Instead, let your daughter or son know that that you will just be there for them if they need help. If there is anything in particular that you want to help with, tell them at the right time.
Dress Well for the Event
Whether you are the mom of the groom or the bride, there are some rules to follow when it comes to choosing your dress. First, make sure to follow the style and formality of the wedding. For example, if it is a casual beach wedding, you surely would not want to appear in a black velvet gown. Second, ask if you are not sure! Communicating with the other mom is very important. The bride can certainly help you a lot when it comes to letting you know of the updates regarding her chosen wedding gown, colors, and others. Even though you may not have to match your dress with the other mom, or with the bridesmaids, it is often a great idea for both moms to be similar in style. Just a tip, avoid white, or other similar hues, as that is exclusive for the bride.
Check the Guest List
Make sure to discuss with the couple about their guest list expectations. While they may be thinking about a huge reception with hundreds of relatives and friends, they may also be planning a simple and intimate affair with just a few of their loved ones present. After knowing the number of people you can invite reasonably, you can come up with your own guest list, giving it to the couple.
Choose Your Priorities
There may be some aspects you want to present on a wedding, such as the favorite flower of your mom on the bouquet, or making sure that your great aunt gets the best seat at the reception. Keep in mind that it is their wedding. Therefore, choose three things that you want to become a part of the wedding, and allow the couple to know about them. Choose your battles correctly rather than insisting on what you want.
Meeting the Parents
If you have not done yet, when the engagement is already announced, it is very important to meet your child’s in-laws. The couple will most likely take the initiative. But if they don’t, you can bring it up in a conversation. Make sure to show that you are clearly supportive of the planned marriage. Dinner at a good restaurant is generally the best option, just to ensure that no party has to be stressed out in preparation.
Be the Backup
At time, wedding guests may be demanding. You can extend help at this point by being there to defend them or back them up. If guests complain, deal with the situation tactfully. With the use of chosen words when replying to complaining guests, you can make sure that the guests feel better, the couple can manage the situation without looking bad, and at the same time, you are in control of the situation, not the guests.
Tame a Groom or Bride-zilla
At times, it is not just the guests who can get out of the way with what they want, even the couple too. If this happens, it is your role to remind them that the wedding only happens in a day. But their love for each other and their marriage are more important.